Gay couples had to struggle mightily to win the right to marry or form civil unions in certain states. Now, some are finding that breaking up is hard to do, too.
In Rhode Island, for example, the state’s top court ruled in December that gays married in neighboring Massachusetts — the only state to allow the practice — cannot get divorced because state lawmakers have never defined marriage as anything but a union between a man and woman.
Over the past four years, Massachusetts has been the only state where gay marriage is legal, while nine other states allow gay couples to enter into civil unions or domestic partnerships that offer many of the rights and privileges of marriage. The vast majority of these unions require court action to dissolve.
Gay couples who still live in the state where they partnered can split up with little difficulty; the laws in those states include divorce or dissolution procedures for same-sex couples. But gay couples who have moved to another state are running into trouble.
Massachusetts, at least early on, let out-of-state gay couples get married there practically for the asking. But the rules governing divorce are stricter. Out-of-state couples could go back to Massachusetts to get divorced, but they would have to live there for a year to establish residency first.
Ok, I understand that not everybody that gets married is going to stay that way. But don’t you think that if you had fought so hard for something, that you wouldn’t just let it go, and then piss and moan when you can’t get it done?
“I find that an unbelievably unfair burden. I own a home here, my friends are here, my life is here,”
and I don’t want to have to move to get a divorce. I mean, it was great that Massachusetts law married my wife and I but now, can’t they just divorce us so that we can move on? We never wanted this marriage thing to actually work out…
Come on people!!!!! You wanted the responsibility, you got it! Divorce laws have been liberalized enough. I guess we could do something though. I mean, if you’ve made a mistake, we don’t want you punished with an unwanted marriage. BAH!!!!